Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Clique Schmick!

So I just noticed something the other day! High School cliques still hold up even after high school!! That sucks.... especially if you are me!! Let me begin with this... In high School there are 3 distinct food group so to speak. The Populars, this basically groups together jocks, cheerleaders, funny people and basically anyone who you envied in school! Next is the Bad kids, the druggies, the gangsters and others who you avoid just in case they decide they want to hurt someone! Lastly we have the nobodies, this includes anyone else from the geeks, the quiet ones and all those people you look through your yearbook and say who is that?! I unfortunately belonged to the latter group. I was the painfully shy, smart goody two shoes that people tended to pretend weren't there. I was always overly eager to please my teachers and followed my parent's orders to the T! I was a nobody... which sucks because it has followed over into real life! For example On facebook I will search up people I went to school with and try to "friend" them but end up being denied.... or they friend me long enough to make me feel good and then delete me. Yet there are the Populars who everyone and their dog adds in hopes of being included among their friends and because they are the cool people they add them back just to rack up their friend totals. Even the "bad" kids are added just so people can say oooo I am their friend guess I am protected! This sucks! Also what I hate to see are teachers that I loved in school and worked my butt off in their classes denying me friendship they soo readly give other students! Some of these teachers I felt I gained a friendship with in school and who would tell me what a "Awesome student I was and how much they enjoyed being near me..." That's total BS!! I have requested several teachers on Facebook all of whom have basically my entire graduating class on their lists and I get denied every time! Those who do add me I try to write and converse with like the Populars and end up never getting responses.... and yet everyday I see new conversations pop up between these teachers and those lucky people! Why is it that you are only remembered from High School for either the Bad reasons or the "Popular" reasons? Or out of pity! Like "that poor soul they are probably still out there with their nose in a book alone!" Why can't people remember you for reasons other than you were Shy, Pretty, The Class Clown or a Jock?? Why do these things place soo much influence on the rest of your life? Why can't people look at me and say "Oh, she was really quiet in school but how about I try to get to know her now? She has probably become a great person!" I hated those cliques in school and I continue to hate them now! Yes there are those who have grown out of them and have branched out with friendships and I applaud them for doing soo! Without them I would be a very lonely Facebooker! Yet there are still walls that make you strictly a contact... not a friend. Anyway I guess my point is if I would have known that being the quiet goody two shoes in school would affect me socially in post-high school times I would have let my hair down, thrown on a blingy shirt and some high heels and said to hell with being cautious! But unfortunately I can't go back so I will just have to keep showing the world my true colors and hope that people see that and realize that I am worth friending online and in real life!

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